Connecting the Past and the Present: Healing Abandonment and Abuse

Connecting the Past and the Present: Healing Abandonment and Abuse through Awareness

Many people I work with in therapy or in my writing-as-healing classes discover stories that surprise themstories about the mistakes they felt their parents made, power imbalances in the family, or stories about physical or sexual abuse. The darker stories are often a surprise: when writers sat down to write, those issues were not directly on their minds, but deep, revealing stories erupted from the pen. Though they were unexpected, for some they were a relief. People who have been in therapy have had the same kind of experiencethe subject matter in the forefront of the mind is not the material that accidentally arises during the session. The therapy session begins with a particular subject in the presentfor example dissatisfaction at work or trouble in a relationship, but often travels back in time with associations to parents, school, or past relationships.

It has become a clich to talk about dysfunctional relationships and families, but most people do not have perfect families, and many have had to struggle with a range of problemsalcoholism, abusephysical, sexual, or...